12 Days of Christmas for Ben: DAY 10

Several years after we were married, my Nana said, “you chose wisely”. She was referring to my choice in a marriage partner. I don’t remember the context of the conversation or what had happened to make her say it on that particular day, but I do recall how good it felt and I have been reflecting on it for the past several weeks. There are many things that I love about Ben, but the reason behind Day 10 is perhaps the most tender.

I do not know many men who would choose the life we have. Again and again, he has said, “I will follow Him” and “I will go and do”. From adopting 14 children to fostering nearly 70 more, he has lived a life full of service to children. And he’s done that when his heart was broken with loss over Mark. He has done it when things were particularly difficult financially, emotionally, and spiritually. He has done it when others have turned their backs or said unkind things about him and our family. He has chosen love every single day as a reflection of the man he is. Mother Theresa once said, “A life not lived for others is not a life.” Well, Ben has lived one heck of a life, serving his family, friends, and strangers every day.

On Day 10, I hope you’ll live for others. That you will look for opportunities to lift, serve, and bring joy to those around you. Those opportunities may be in your own family and home. They may be in the line at the grocery store, a kind word to a stranger, a donation to a charity, or holding the door for someone. Whichever way you choose to serve others today, thank you. And my Nana was right, I did choose wisely.



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